You know what they say about opinions Ava.

It's all subjective.

Took me a long time to realize that.

You can only live for you. You have to listen to your own heart. Cause in the end your always going to be you.

Look at you, spitting that real!

LJ Knight is fine too.

I'd have tons of fun arguing with her just to have makeup sex...lmao

I'm about to start flirting with you lol.

You want an internet bf?

hehehe

I mean I don't know Kanye to even talk about what he's like in his personal life. So I can't even begin to assume.

Now if you use his persona he has out here in the media, then yeah he has some growing up to do.

But as far as what he wants, I think he is ok in that regard. Its who hes going to be with. So why not get what you want if your going to spend the rest of your life with her.

Bitter Much?

Seriously, I see nothing wrong with Kanye's thoughts on what HE WANTS. Nothing wrong with it at all.

Same way if a woman gets in here and describes a Ken Doll, with a huge penis, and money like Bill Gates. Its what she wants.

Want's may not be realistic or grounded in reality. But still who's to say what you want is Superficial? It's your life. The same people criticizing you for your wants aren't going to live it for you. It's up to you to make you happy.

So I say men and women, say what you want. Think about what you want seriously. Then get it.

Only you can make you happy. Fk whoever has something to say about your wants. Cause the people talking all that sh*t wont help you find your happiness.

Article is ridiculous.

Do you.

Continue to be yourself. Don't compromise. Ask questions. Make the best decisions based on the information you have.

Relationships are a gamble. Nobody knows what anyone is thinking. Understand any relationship is a risk, which is also what makes them so rewarding when they work out.

Don't be afraid to make the right changes for your own happiness.

I guess I'll post my thoughts on this.

I've never been in a relationship with a woman that I couldn't see going further than just Girlfriend/Boyfriend. I like to pride myself on believing I choose quality women. Wether we work out or not, I believe you are a quality woman, if I'm willing to deal with you.

Ive engaged in relationships before where I had no intention on being with that woman. Treating her right the entire time. Allowing her to treat me right also. But I engaged in that relationship with intentions on being selfish in the first place. Keyword, SELFISH.

I got with this woman knowing full well, I was going to use her. Use her as a platform to chase other woman. My fall back. My plan B. It freed me up to be riskier in my pursuit.

This had nothing to do with how this woman treated me. I got with her knowing full well she wasn't who I wanted. REGARDLESS of how she was to me. I knew already that I never wanted her. No matter what the reasons were, I KNEW that I didn't want her.

There is no excuse for treating anyone like this. Its weak. Its selfish. And its down right deceitful to use a person to cover up your own weaknesses. And thats exactly what a man does when he gets into a relationship with a woman and planning on taking advantage of her.

Ladies. The key thing I want you all to realize is that this is a case by case basis. It fully depends on what kind of man you have. Where this man is in his lifetime. If this behavior is behind him or never was in him in the first place.

Men are never confused about what we want. Its just that we know we cant have what we want all the time. So we take steps to make it happen. A man will never ever make you wait if you are what he wants. He will make it happen. If your not, hes going to stall and find reasons to keep you around until what he wants either happens or falls apart. Nothing about this behavior is confusing. Its selfish, bottom line.

Now a man like myself, I've been there and done that. I no longer need a launch pad. I'm confident enough to approach any woman I want. I can handle rejection. Thru trail and error, I am grounded. The same way the words I type on this site, exudes cockiness and self assurance, I'm like that in my life. I've been hurt badly enough to know the damage that a man can do on a woman who loves him. The kind of damage that can be avoided with the truth.

I now leave women alone that I dont want. I repeat, I leave women alone that I don't want. Meaning I no longer believe in growing to love. I have to be willing to love you from the moment I see you in order for me to grow to love you. If you don't have it, I'm sorry we cant converse. We cant date. Because I don't want to hurt you. Your in it more than I am. I'm a firm believer of making a woman fall in love with me. I don't want my woman doing more than I am to gain my attention. I should be able to just look at you and want to do everything I can for you. And no I'm not talking about your looks, I'm talking about that "it" factor. Yes it does exist for a man.

We know who we want. What we want. It's just that we usually cant get that. We don't want to be alone. We will settle for second best. While having our eyes on that first choice the entire time.

Simply put, Men are all in different stages at different times. There is no way to know which man you have. Which is why a woman should be herself and remain herself at all times. Don't put on front for any man. If he loves you and wants to marry you, you wont have to wait forever for it to happen. Your man will take steps. If you notice your man lagging behind. Taking his time, then speak up. Don't be moot. Cause I know how you women value your time, so make sure its not being wasted on some sucka, whos using you to get to another woman.

Step back. Find out who your man is. There is no harm in that. Its you right. I fkn love women. I really fkn do. You have so much power, its crazy how women don't exert it. Find out who your dealing with. Take your time. Avoid all this heartache and pain. Make the right decision for you. Because it's your life. Whats good for you, may not be good for another. But the key is, its good for you.

All men are different. Remember that.

Good luck.

You know is this post really needed?

You shouldn't worry about black men that don't date black women. Leave them to their own devices.

Worry about us men that do date black women.

Don't believe this hype. This doesn't apply to all men. I will be posting my thoughts on this fully lately. When I read it myself.

But from reading your post, just know that all men aren't like this.

Case by case basis.