en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1197602 Comments by Paul@butlerway http://www.butlerway.com/2012/07/george-zimmermen.html#IDComment685873408 Let's start, Will, by being 100% clear here. There isn't a chance in the world that half of what you said makes sense if you choose to use your common sense and not your racist mind set. How would anyone think a little boy of any race be profiled and killed when he was doing nothing wrong to begin with be okay? What boy or a man for that matter wouldn't be scared out of his mind with some as you said, "creepy bald headed dude at night looking like a skinhead" following him on the way home minding his business on the phone with a friend. No, Trayvon didn't come back and start a fight with a grown man as you would like to believe to make yourself feel better for not caring about a child because of his race. Would you have confronted a strange man at that age? Likely not. Why are you so sensitive to race? Intelligent minds understand that everything you just said about the black community stems from the very history that you don't want to acknowledge. The Trayvon Martin story is big because people got involved because it's everyday that a person of color gets profiled but not actually murdered walking home from the store. Isn't that huge news considering he was a baby too. Yes, I said baby. Not thug. I see white kids walk by my house everyday with tattoos, big jeans, etc and I don't chase them down and shoot them in the heart here in our wealthy, mostly white community. That probably wouldn't play so well would it, Will? I have to imagine you and the good old boy network would have a different point of view. The police had him listed as a John Doe and didn't even go knock on doors to find out who that boy was. The black community certainly has it's problems but before you should bother yourself with that, you might want to stop what's going on in your own communities. Drug abuse, domestic violence, rape, murder all in your wealthiest communities. Now just imagine if they actually looked for crime in those communities especially being we know white on white crime is at 78% and black on black at 85%, meaning most crimes are committed by someone of their same race. I suggest you start to look out for your neighbor before a black man. Check your stats. I'm sorry at risk of sounding like you, I'll comment like this when we all, including God knows this was cold blooded murder of a innocent kid. Wed, 24 Jul 2013 00:48:46 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2012/07/george-zimmermen.html#IDComment685873408 http://www.butlerway.com/2012/02/cheating-isnt-yes-or-no.html#IDComment291718446 Christine, Thank you for the kind words. I guess cheating is never a simple thing for any relationship. I hope you are well! Mon, 13 Feb 2012 22:47:41 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2012/02/cheating-isnt-yes-or-no.html#IDComment291718446 http://www.butlerway.com/2012/02/cheating-isnt-yes-or-no.html#IDComment291716816 Cleavie, interesting question! However, they would have to go for even asking. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 22:45:02 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2012/02/cheating-isnt-yes-or-no.html#IDComment291716816 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/12/pauls-friday-rant-abusive-relationships.html#IDComment246355352 Amanda, I would have to say you are right. If I could write a book I would have covered much of what you are saying. However, my main point is that if a female is being miss treated, they have to take responsibility for their very own happiness. Meaning good decision making from the beginning of the relationship. A man that becomes abusive most likely showed signs of it early in the relationship by how he treated others. Both men and women should stop rushing into serious relationships. Thanks for commenting! Sat, 24 Dec 2011 17:59:00 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/12/pauls-friday-rant-abusive-relationships.html#IDComment246355352 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/12/island-part-1.html#IDComment234374544 Liane, trust me! It will get much better. I'm glad you like it! Thanks for commenting. Wed, 7 Dec 2011 23:08:37 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/12/island-part-1.html#IDComment234374544 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/12/pauls-friday-rant-why-occupy-wall.html#IDComment232264633 Simplicity? I guess that would be assuming that my life is so easy. I'm here to tell you that it's not. I sometimes want to scream at the wealthy but to me that would just be jealously rearing it's ugly head. We are taught to be successful and make as money as we can to be comfortable and do what we want in life. So what I'm saying is taking personal responsibility and take care of yourself. Make yours within legal means but just do it . Sat, 3 Dec 2011 18:53:35 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/12/pauls-friday-rant-why-occupy-wall.html#IDComment232264633 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/unfulfilled-promise-in-boise.html#IDComment222282639 Cleavie, the problem isn't the kicker. I wrote about this a while ago. if they were the program that the BCS claims them to be, both last years game and this weeks game wouldn't of come down to a field goal in the first place. Both times against questionable programs. It's time to kick Boise out of the top 25 for good. The BCS, coaches, you and the fans have to get real about the rating system. It's a joke! Tue, 15 Nov 2011 11:18:48 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/unfulfilled-promise-in-boise.html#IDComment222282639 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/see-right-through-negativity.html#IDComment217938094 Jill, thank you. That comment from "classy" guy above was ridiculous so thanks for the support. It means so much more when people like you step up when someone attacks you and your family or more specifically, Kerry. Mon, 7 Nov 2011 02:21:14 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/see-right-through-negativity.html#IDComment217938094 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/see-right-through-negativity.html#IDComment217748122 Hey B, if you have something to say to me or my wife pick up the phone and call like a man or send an email (LOL). What is it with you always assuming something to be negative. Too much yoga, man. Try something new. Just my advice. Oh, that's right I'm too opinionated. Sorry if you see it that way. Funny thing is all those political writers such as Michael Savage that you seem to like so much have very strong opinions but I can't, huh. There was a time when you appreciated my differing opinion and view point. Nothing has changed here. What happened to you? Try thinking for yourself some day, it can be very powerful as well. I've written about this too and Kerry touched on it above as well. People that are around are the ones that hate the most. We are happy and love our life and see nothing wrong with sharing. If you want to share what you know and have learned, start your own website. Get over that damn email too, for God's sake. Classy tip: If the skirt is short, the boobs stay in. If the boobs are out, the skirt should be longer. Sun, 6 Nov 2011 16:52:45 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/see-right-through-negativity.html#IDComment217748122 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/pauls-friday-rant-infidelity.html#IDComment217443740 Cleavie, I thought we have been over this before. Yes some people cheat because of curiosity and ego. However, there are many people that hold a strong enough value system to know it's just that. Curiosity! Think about how many young women some who are married sit in front of a TV watching trash and begin to look up to those characters. Then begin to think what they have at home isn't good enough. Then you have all the ego driven insecure men who need an extramarital affair to feel like a man. Men are more insecure than women. Trust me! That's why they tend to cheat more often. You have to think deep to understand this type of behavior my brotha. Leave that trash TV alone man and stick to watching sports. I know you watch it because I can tell by some of your articles. Anyway, love you man and thanks for commenting. Sat, 5 Nov 2011 22:39:13 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/pauls-friday-rant-infidelity.html#IDComment217443740 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/pauls-friday-rant-infidelity.html#IDComment217439154 Melody, in the past I mentioned how bad I thought that whole Housewives show is. Many women are influenced by trash TV like that. Not to blame the media for infidelity in any way after all we are all adults and make our own decisions. I just happen to believe they have influenced a large part of our culture. Many people aspire to be like the Kim Kardashians of the world. Unfortunately, most people don't get paid millions to get married. Thanks for commenting Sat, 5 Nov 2011 22:24:46 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/11/pauls-friday-rant-infidelity.html#IDComment217439154 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/10/is-nhl-racist.html#IDComment206265339 Cleavie, the problem is that there are to many clowns that go to all sporting event. The reason you don't see them pull acts like that off at an NBA or NFL sporting event is because there are more people of color and those that support them at those events. This incident isn't the NHL fault in anyway. It is a society issue. Until we as the human race take racism and racial stereotypes of all races serious, this kind of behavior will appear when you least expect it. Rather it be at a sporting event, party, or even work for that matter. These kind of people tend to be cowards who get drunk and do silly stuff to impress friends. Wed, 12 Oct 2011 02:20:46 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/10/is-nhl-racist.html#IDComment206265339 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/09/rent-before-you-buy.html#IDComment194047339 It's not as bad as it sounds. We still live by some very exclusive homes. However, just 3 miles away is where we really want to settle. Fri, 16 Sep 2011 10:19:13 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/09/rent-before-you-buy.html#IDComment194047339 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/08/sex-in-your-40s.html#IDComment186524141 Communication is key! It will only get better as we get older because like anything else, it's knowledge of your partner's body and mind. Thanks for commenting and liking the butlerway. Thu, 25 Aug 2011 17:32:53 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/08/sex-in-your-40s.html#IDComment186524141 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/08/what-if-there-was-no-football.html#IDComment179230356 Cleavie, this is a excellent post! I love sports as much as the next guy. However, I got my own life to live and becoming a millionaire athlete just isn't going to happen at this point in my life. I think the problem with many men is they want to live out their super star fantasies thru these guys. I say get over it and become even better than them by focusing on your family and your career. Because every pro athlete I know can give a rat;s ass about me, you and the average everyday guy. Men need to focus on their appearance more. Especially a single guy. Because looking up to some athlete who wear a red suit and pirate earrings isn't going to cut it. Sorry those are the facts that a lot of folks don't talk about. My point is, I actually think sports has led to the downfall of many marriages because guys don't know when to get over that crap. I like to attend events for the festive atmosphere more than anything else. Football is a man's man sport and most guys sit around and guzzle beer weekend after weekend and this not only affects their relationships but their health. Find balance. Tue, 2 Aug 2011 01:26:21 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/08/what-if-there-was-no-football.html#IDComment179230356 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/07/pauls-friday-rant-get-off-band-wagon.html#IDComment172881716 Damon, rather it falls on deaf ears or not, I see this is a defining issue in the future of America. This country has a history of ignoring the facts until it is too late. Look at our political environment. We have hate mongers who are being taken serious for political office and who hide behind policies such as immigration to gain support of those who think like them. When we all know what this country was founded on...Yes, immigration is a issue that must be solved. But will it ever? Why do they care so much about it to begin with when we have so many other issues to deal with that are far more important. Thanks for commenting. Oh, trust me! I do watch myself. Wed, 13 Jul 2011 02:06:54 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/07/pauls-friday-rant-get-off-band-wagon.html#IDComment172881716 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/why-do-men-cheat.html#IDComment166146768 Summer, for the last time, I was only giving one solution to why a man might possibly cheat. I couldn't write a book about it. Women also need their partner to be their best friend and men must make every effort to make sure they are satisfied sexually and emotionally. Are you trying to say if you are a mother or in the church choir that you shouldn't have sex? I don't know what churches you go to but I see a whole bunch of kids running around so someone's having sex. You can fight until you are blue in the face but all women want to be sexy and like sex just like men do. It's all part of a healthy relationship and how we conceive children. I'm not saying to anyone male or female to go out seek multiple sexual partners. Just saying if you are an adult in a committed relationship and it's a union you want to try to keep together how you interact sexually is a very important aspect of that. I think any male or female that under estimates the fact that their mate has sexual fantasies will find that they are dead wrong. Even you Summer for that matter. Thanks for commenting. Keep it kind! Fri, 24 Jun 2011 13:20:27 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/why-do-men-cheat.html#IDComment166146768 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/open-letter-to-conservatives.html#IDComment165823252 Many conservitives are poor but still want to portray themselves as rich so they vote Republican as if one day they might accually make the same amount of money as the bank CEO but really like a puppet on a string voting against their own interest. Crazy! Imagine believing in trickle down economics. Don't tax the rich because they are going to create a job for me or someone else with that savings. Really? I think not! I bet more than likely you will see a new sports car parked outside of their house or you may just hear about the new summer home they just bought. Don't get me wrong, I would do the same thing if I was them with the money. I just think many Americans lack the understanding of how this country really works because they are too busy listening to sound bites instead of taking the time to find out what is really best for them and their families. Anyway, great article! Thu, 23 Jun 2011 15:10:18 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/open-letter-to-conservatives.html#IDComment165823252 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/open-letter-to-conservatives.html#IDComment165823201 Chris, I have to say this is one of the best political articles I have ever read. I especially like the part about what most liberals think about taxes and government programs. As a liberal, I am an independent thinker who believes in self reliance to the highest of levels. However, I do understand some folks fall on hard times. Not to mention the playing field isn't close to being level for all of us whether you are black, white, purple or green. That's just a fact that many conservatives don't want to acknowledge because they either benefited from it or are just plain brainwashed from the many years of family members and friend sprewing all the negitive conotations about the poor and minorities. They will always be blind to these issues, I think often to their own chagrin. Thu, 23 Jun 2011 15:10:05 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/open-letter-to-conservatives.html#IDComment165823201 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/why-do-men-cheat.html#IDComment165534786 Summer, To remain naive to the fact that men and women both need to make every effort to keep sexual and intellectual connections and attractions alive, then my bet is you are or were in a sexless and passionless relationship. That being said, is Summer even your real name? I bet not! Kerry responded to you before, however, I'm done being professional about it since you come across as both rude and unhappy, which is probably why you get so upset at my posts. I'm not being condescending when I write. It's all in effort to help others. I never said I was a expert on any topic. All I can do is try to share my successes and what I have learned from my mistakes on any particular matter. I have a feeling that your problem is that you refuse to listen to others who have obtained their goals in any particular area whether it be fitness, relationships, etc. because you have not. Trust me! If you listen to even part of what I said in this post, your husband will start to pay more attention to you. But getting upset at the messenger isn't going to help you or anyone else for that matter. I think we all know both men and women cheat for many reasons. Duh! I was only given one perspective which I feel is a important component to any relationship. Oh, and yes you better learn how to be dirty or you will never keep a man. That's a fact. Sorry for the tough love but you must take a look at yourself not me. I'm having a great deal of fun. All I can do is share what I know with others. It's up to them if they want to listen or not. Thanks for commenting. Let me know if I could ever be of help. Wed, 22 Jun 2011 20:34:20 +0000 http://www.butlerway.com/2011/06/why-do-men-cheat.html#IDComment165534786