to the blog post in general.. wow.... to gingers final comment... i couldn't agree more... I really wish more people become more financially responsible and competent, I feel it should be mandatory just like english math and science... and with all due respect to science... financial education I believe had more general importance than taking a physics or chemistry course in high school or college. I wish there was a place like... a Personal Finance school that had classes for different age groups... kinda like an extra curricular type thing... to have education for all ages...

but yea... women... be smart... and if you gotta leave a man because he isn't smart... do it... but after at least helping him see the door to financial education as well. (so that maybe he might become a better man for the next woman... maybe...)

getting to do it all might mean having to do it all... -- wow... that is an amazing statement. An Indian lady commenting on marriage in america once told me that its a little known but deeply engrained way that men work. Its like men are solids, women are liquids. You take away the container holding a woman in a certain way, she just flows into something else. You break down the foundation of a solid... it can't stand anymore unless someone builds it again. If a man doesn't have to do what hes supposed to, he will do nothing. (maybe thats true for all people but...)

should have married better? dunno the guy buy it could be stuff just went sour for the time being. The deciding factor in if you should have married better is not what happened, but what he will do about it. If he mans up, doesn't just feel depressed about his mistakes or shortcomings, and makes himself useful and finds his groove that is substantial enough... Then you married fine. But maybe you married hastily because of baby... and actually... that makes me think (not to piss you off but to keep it real in general) becareful who you go making babies with... dont have sex with someone you would hate to marry (not saying you need to want him to propose.. just saying if there are already red flags and flashing lights... dont go there)... you could have avoided this by not marrying (not that you could see the future..and this would still make things complicated with baby and all) but also if you did it with a different guy. and the way you talk about him... well hopefully its just venting...and you have a BIG right to be bitter but if you want things to get better youll have some attitude to suck up

That said... sorry that all that happened to you. And no one can even say you are wanting to much, you just want to live well enough... I think this is an example of the principle its easier to pull someone down than pull someone up... and applies for both sexes because I think there are plenty of stories of men pulled down by women (probably not blogged or voiced as often) as a man, I am sad that this man has failed you. And I hope things turn around for you. Although your name "feministbreeder" rubs me the wrong way (although its all about connotation, and personal perspective/context) I hope the lady I settle down with would have the mindset you expressed in this comment, to finish school instead of being an edu-bum, to help play a vital role in being with the children and HELP raise them well in this crooked society, and to have solid career goals and at the same time be fine with a part time job (somewhat of an indication to me you are not lazy, but care about other things besides just materialism and status... and lets keep it real those things are still attractive to have in life... or else people wouldnt want them... but not the most important)
And I say this because I am not the kind of guy that wants a stay at home mom- woman stay in the kitchen kind of relationship... I am the kind of guy that loves family, raised in a good one, has major goals in life, but one that tops the list is to be a great husband and father and do what I can for my kids... and then I look at the world of women and see a lot less women than I would hope to see that care about love-family-kids-real-life vs career/money/status in a similar ratio that I do.

I can't say that I love you but... I sympathize... In my head I'm thinking to your husband... WTF! Man what are you doing???? Please lady, tell me he has plans to move forward... please... makes me sad to see that. I really hope for your sake, and the sake of your marriage, that he turns this from a road block into a detour that will be insignificant in the future... I really hope... you didn't say but I hope he can at least finish something and get a freakin job! maybe he should become a Certified financial planner so he can at least manage whatever money you have well...