en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/788103 Comments by 18channels http://jeffsaddmind.com/adult-adhd-the-metamorphosis-3446.htm#IDComment65674605 "I want to return to that pre-cure state. I want to live again in the infinitesimal nows with the illusion of infinite do-overs, of being able to choose all paths simultaneously. " This quote kind of makes me want to throw up...it makes me want to throw up when I have those moments pop up these days...sigh...I don't want that. It makes me feel like my heart will explode out of my chest...I used to live for that feeling...now it makes me sick... Sat, 3 Apr 2010 01:01:54 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/adult-adhd-the-metamorphosis-3446.htm#IDComment65674605 http://jeffsaddmind.com/ask-the-rabbi-are-thin-mints-and-ring-jells-reflections-of-the-platonic-form-of-scrumptious-food-and-where-do-samoas-fit-into-this-schema-2759.htm#IDComment64674097 I love Passover...who doesn't love a holiday that involves four glasses of wine in one sitting ;) Mon, 29 Mar 2010 16:47:54 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/ask-the-rabbi-are-thin-mints-and-ring-jells-reflections-of-the-platonic-form-of-scrumptious-food-and-where-do-samoas-fit-into-this-schema-2759.htm#IDComment64674097 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-imagining-2836.htm#IDComment63960550 I got totally excited this week because the weather is ready again for my Paris Hilton sunglasses...there need be NO jealousy in our little ADHD universe since clearly, at least two of the three kids have it too and the third thinks the rest of us are funny...at least for now :) wheeee! Everyone can enjoy ADHD...everyone can have their own pair of Paris Hilton sunglasses...! Thu, 25 Mar 2010 04:41:29 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-imagining-2836.htm#IDComment63960550 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-imagining-2836.htm#IDComment63801416 Ha! *snort* reminds me of Dr. Hallowell's assertion that normal brains suffer from Attention Surplus Disorder...bwahahaha.... Wed, 24 Mar 2010 05:21:03 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-imagining-2836.htm#IDComment63801416 http://jeffsaddmind.com/those-godless-socialists-how-the-democratic-party-is-destroying-freedom-by-providing-affordable-health-care-3038.htm#IDComment63526093 Oh so timely. I was accused of being a socialist today...it was so retro it almost turned me on a little, I love retro style! (as demonstrated by my taste in shoes). It was so...oh I don't know...Joe McCarthy! Damn! What ever happened to THAT guy? Is he still in Congress? He MUST be. Oh, back to being called a socialist...I was called a socialist because a friend of mine was declaring the end of Democracy and the beginning of Communism, and why couldn't we just trust the free market to fix itself and blahblahblah...my response was "while I'm not so sure about this bill, I'm pretty sure Enron is a good example of private industry blowing it in the free market...". I was informed that my friend was not entertaining discussion on the topic because...it was socialist, and further more, my ideas were a threat to freedom. I responded that the biggest threat to freedom is silence. And that my comments weren't intended to insult him but to challenge him to solution oriented thinking. Upon further reflection I can't imagine what I was thinking. I went back and reviewed the TOS for this friendship and apparently I initially missed the fine print that states "friendship and the only acceptable definition of freedom are dependent on you agreeing with me at all times". Sweet...so now I have a retro label to go with my vintage fashions. I hope you're gleaning that I'm pickin' up what you're putting down. Mon, 22 Mar 2010 19:05:48 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/those-godless-socialists-how-the-democratic-party-is-destroying-freedom-by-providing-affordable-health-care-3038.htm#IDComment63526093 http://jeffsaddmind.com/part-four-inside-the-mind-of-jeffsaddmind-a-conversation-2267.htm#IDComment62525386 I can neither confirm nor deny any knowledge I may have or not have regarding the Delta Force and glittery shoes. Wed, 17 Mar 2010 05:06:08 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/part-four-inside-the-mind-of-jeffsaddmind-a-conversation-2267.htm#IDComment62525386 http://jeffsaddmind.com/true-love-romantic-love-serotonin-levels-980.htm#IDComment62525198 I'm sure he'd be happy to share the secrets of his banana chimichanga with you...note to self... Sonny Rollins and I definitely have the thunderbolt kind. It's refreshing...it's been a while :) Wed, 17 Mar 2010 05:04:35 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/true-love-romantic-love-serotonin-levels-980.htm#IDComment62525198 http://jeffsaddmind.com/true-love-romantic-love-serotonin-levels-980.htm#IDComment62344482 The first time my sweetheart invited me over to his house, he made me a banana chimichanga (hey...it was a dessert...get outta the sleeze lane!). Shockingly delicious...he lit it on fire...dressed it with chocolate...highly recommend for romantic evenings :) As for true love...he and I have discussed this many times now...he really is a believer in true love. I'm uh...well let's just say I'm a little more cynical. I'm squishy, I love being in love...but I have a pretty intense bullshit detector and people who try to woo me with classic "romance" basically piss me off. That is, until Mr. Banana Chimichanga came along. He's made me appreciate loooooove all over again :) Just sayin...oh NO...NOT TRUE LOVE...that's a stupid concept that people use themselves to make things seem super duper magical that probably shouldn't be. But real, good love? The kind that happens over banana chimichangas and sweet overtures of sweetness that aren't the fake kind? Oh yes...good times. My personal explanation is not true love. It's "my personal chemistry set and yours complement one another nicely". Tue, 16 Mar 2010 05:28:47 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/true-love-romantic-love-serotonin-levels-980.htm#IDComment62344482 http://jeffsaddmind.com/part-four-inside-the-mind-of-jeffsaddmind-a-conversation-2267.htm#IDComment62343440 F*ck average bears, you're far more entertaining! This, my friend, this is a masterwork of the blogosphere :) For me, the word was "weird". I got that one a lot. I used to torture my-SELF with crazy...but you know what? a) I'm not crazy and neither are you and b) I just got some F*CKING AWESOME SHOES IN THE MAIL SO I DON'T GIVE A CRAP who thinks I'm weird! Haaaaa...yeah, take THAT, curing ADHD (er, encouraging it) with glittery silver shoes. The Delta Force needs silver glittery shoes. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 05:19:38 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/part-four-inside-the-mind-of-jeffsaddmind-a-conversation-2267.htm#IDComment62343440 http://jeffsaddmind.com/3-steps-to-conquering-add-adhd-how-women-can-regain-those-shapely-curves-1840.htm#IDComment61739881 As if you need more confirmation that you're right on here, lol, but: "Many medical studies have proven, motivating children to develop self-confidence, giving them close companionship “and improving their R.E.M. sleep” in the early stages of autism, asthma, ADD and ADHD can overcome these disorders completely." Check, check and check. And I still have ADHD. Not just kinda. Crap like this parked out there in the virtual world makes me want to "virtually" punch people in the face. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:07:09 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/3-steps-to-conquering-add-adhd-how-women-can-regain-those-shapely-curves-1840.htm#IDComment61739881 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-power-of-positive-thinking-adhd-2394.htm#IDComment61320175 I don't know what the f*** is wrong with you people. I have ADHD and my life is f*cking perfect. 1) I am totally in control. 2) I went to camp to make myself not ADHD and it totally worked! It's just like going to gay deprogramming camp and just as effective! 3) The only bad side-effect of deprogramming was increased severity of intense sarcasm. Still not sure what to do about that. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:06:26 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-power-of-positive-thinking-adhd-2394.htm#IDComment61320175 http://jeffsaddmind.com/seasonal-affective-disorder-84.htm#IDComment61319369 I had wicked bad seasonal moods shifts when I lived in Seattle, which is where I grew up, and where it is overcast about 8 months out of the year. At least here in New England, the SUN comes out even in the WINTER. And I LOOOOOOOVE it. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:03:31 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/seasonal-affective-disorder-84.htm#IDComment61319369 http://jeffsaddmind.com/review-your-baby-can-read-1538.htm#IDComment60727222 "Wool-gather"=love it. Perfect description. More children do need time to wool-gather. I got a crap ton of wool-gathering time as a kid...it involved a lot of dirt...and lot of hanging out and listening to adults and asking them questions about stuff...and my mom had a giant dictionary that we would look stuff up in all the time if we wanted or needed to know what a new word meant...but no reading boot camp. They would read to us and when we decided to read on our own, we got allll the library books we wanted. I would hyperfocus for HOURS...no peeing, no eating, just reading (and occasionally accidentally peeing my pants because I was so focused and wouldn't go to the bathroom...oh ADHD I LOVE YOU!). It's great when kids figure out that reading on their own can be fun...my boyfriend's 7-year old just figured that out, so now, instead of tickling and pinching her little brothers and otherwise asserting her POWER as the oldest, she likes to go off and curl up with a book...which made the next youngest a little lonely the other day. He ran to his father, whining that his sister wouldn't play with him: "WHY WON'T SHE PLAY WITH ME!!!!" "Because she's reading, leave her alone." "But WHYYYYY!" "Because....because she's seven and she can READ, that's why! Leave her alone! When you can read, you can have quiet reading time too!" Which was great because then the 5 year old says: "BUT I WANT TO READ TOO!" HAH. Peer pressure, the great motivator. Who needs special reading programs when social dynamics sort it out for you for free! Tue, 9 Mar 2010 15:54:39 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/review-your-baby-can-read-1538.htm#IDComment60727222 http://jeffsaddmind.com/you-have-a-d-d-and-you-can-succeed-a-rebuttal-by-paradigm-of-thought-part-i-2008.htm#IDComment58538996 Ooooh...okay, well let me then write Feminist Response to "You Have ADD/ADHD and You Will STILL Not Be Rich and Famous": I believe I have remarked on this in my own blog. But it bears taking note of, and it relates a little bit to what "Rebuttal" has put forth... In theater training, when I was in college, we were asked to explore "status" and which behaviors people exhibit in order to be perceived as "high status", and which ones many people often unwittingly exhibit when being perceived as "low status". On the high status list: obsessive focus, interrupting, arriving late and leaving early Low status: being polite and accommodating, "playing by the rules"...you get the basic idea. Let's meditate on that for a moment. Okay done... Now then, point 1: think about the stereotypical entreprenuer...mmmhmmmm. Now then, point 2: think about which behaviors are more acceptable for men to exhibit and for women to exhibit. Okay...now picture me, in a meeting with a bunch of "bigwigs". My ADHD meds haven't kicked in yet. My mind is bouncing everywhere. I was feeling self-conscious because I was late. I kept interrupting people and then apologizing for it. Why? Because my whole life I have known that you're supposed to be polite, not interrupt...not be late because it's "rude"...even as a child I spent energy on not doing these things. And often, I have discovered, when you are "the smart girl" in the room and you speak up...people just stare. I'll take gender out of it too and just cop to being someone who is often thinking just ahead of the curve of the conversation and that'll get you some good stares too. In walks stereotypical ADHD executive guy and he clearly doesn't care about "the stare"...I'm sure he doesn't "know" that he has ADHD, but I'm telling you it's as plain as day. He is successful...he is smart, some say brilliant. He is later than me...and he is checking his Crackberry in the middle of the meeting with no apology, interrupting when it suits him because clearly what he has to say is important...and when he's not doing those things, like me, his gaze wonders all over the room and entertains itself with its own clearly brilliant thoughts. Everyone else is listening intently and the two of us keep accidentally meeting at the eyes because our eyes are everywhere! Interestingly, although we don't know one another well, he requested my presence on another community board, because...he sees that I get the job done...that I'm a good operationalizer. Call it impatience, call it operationalizing, but he's right. However, my point...I think there ARE sometimes other issues to be considered...and I don't doubt that there are lots of successful ADHDers out there who aren't counted, because quite simply, they don't think there's anything wrong with them and neither does anyone else...oh I know they have exhausted secretaries...but that's not the opinion that matters, is it? ;) ADHDers of any gender who have had the luck, by birth, or by insight to find themselves in a position where life calls them successful...good for them. I do think that it is more common for men, than women, however, to be "approved" of when behaving in these kinds of ways...I think about that a lot...and about how much anxiety I have experienced in my life, from spending all that energy trying to rein it in...when sometimes, I really probably don't need to... Even in my own community, where I feel valued, I do not feel valued as a business person per se...I feel valued as...well, quite frankly as a bit of a novelty. People see what they want to see, and gender can affect that..which is why I've started showing up in business suits and taken to checking my calendar during meetings...haha...I'm eliminating the obvious differences as much as possible...and throwing terms like "diversifying revenue streams" around... Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:26:50 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/you-have-a-d-d-and-you-can-succeed-a-rebuttal-by-paradigm-of-thought-part-i-2008.htm#IDComment58538996 http://jeffsaddmind.com/you-have-addadhd-and-you-will-still-not-be-rich-and-famous-1858.htm#IDComment57657111 There's also the issue that people who are already bright who have ADHD are likely to be noticed because of the eccentricity of their orbit through life and the fact that many of us are very vocal. So...we may actually be noticed because we have ADHD...but are bright and creative just because we are...not because of the ADHD...though they then get linked. Uh...I hope that wasn't already in your post somewhere and I missed it and I'm being repetitive...but I'm at work...ADHD multi-tasking at its finest! Fri, 19 Feb 2010 18:27:42 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/you-have-addadhd-and-you-will-still-not-be-rich-and-famous-1858.htm#IDComment57657111 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-potential-effects-of-the-recession-what-might-happen-what-we-might-do-about-it-1734.htm#IDComment56548942 I am fascinated that we discuss the loss of a particular way of life as though we had a right to it in the first place. I don't wish ill on the national economy. But I feel we were already living on borrowed time in this regard...when the framework is unsteady, the drapings will fall away. Fri, 12 Feb 2010 21:36:30 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-potential-effects-of-the-recession-what-might-happen-what-we-might-do-about-it-1734.htm#IDComment56548942